October 2, 2019
Try to recall the first moment you felt the bonds of friendship forming between you and another member of Kappa Delta. Maybe it was on Bid Day when you first met the new sisters comprising your new-member class. Perhaps it was during big/little reveal when you realized you were paired with the best big sister ever. These friendships were likely a presence during all four of your collegiate years and hopefully remain strong many years later.
During the month of September, Kappa Delta senior collegiate members participated in “Female Friendship,” the first Senior Circle of the new Kappa Delta Senior Experience program. Within the circle, seniors were prompted to answer thought-provoking questions about friendship. How would you answer?
What are the challenges you face when trying to connect to other women?
What can you do to be a positive influence in someone else’s life?
Why are female friendships important and how have they impacted your life?
Senior year is perhaps one of the busiest times in a collegian’s life. They are busy looking for internships, applying for jobs or grad school and editing their resumes. The Senior Experience makes their Kappa Delta experience relevant and engaging during this busy time. It seeks to set members up for success outside of the collegiate world, and we believe developing and maintaining female friendships is a key element to success.
The skills you gained in establishing female friendships will help you as you enter the professional world and forge relationships with new coworkers and colleagues. It’s important to not only foster the friendships you made in college, but also to establish new ones once you graduate.
Check out these five female friendships we admire. Instead of competing, these pairs lift each other up. Consider how you and the friends you’ve made in Kappa Delta can continue to support each other post-college, just as these besties support each other in their careers and personal lives.
Jennifer Aniston and Courtney Cox
This duo played on-screen best buds and roommates on the 90’s sitcom F.R.I.E.N.D.S. and soon became friends off-screen as well. The two have maintained their friendship for almost 20 years following the end of the show, and still attend Hollywood events together, go on girls’ trips and keep in touch via group text. “I started to find my confidence when I was on Friends, for sure. In a way, being on that show was the ultimate trust exercise,” Aniston told opens in a new windowInStyle of her friendship with Cox and the cast in a 2019 interview.
What we admire most: Both Aniston and Cox have spoken about hard times in their personal lives to the media and shared that they supported each other through the rough patches. Being vulnerable with other women helps deepen the bonds of friendship.
Erin Abernathy and Stephanie Pulido
These Kappa Delta sisters met in college at the University of Georgia and later started their own media brand, which landed them on the Forbes “30 Under 30” list. Together, they’re co-running a business and living out their dreams.
What we admire most: Abernathy and Pulido’s friendship is a perfect example of why maintaining Kappa Delta friendships post-college can pay off. Maybe your sister will someday be your future business partner!
Sophie Turner and Maisie Williams
Turner and Williams, who played the Stark sisters on HBO’s Game of Thrones, grew up on set together. While their characters were often at odds, the two developed a friendship that made long days filming enjoyable. William even stood by Turner’s side at her wedding to Joe Jonas this past summer. “Maisie is definitely my protector and I’m hers, too,” Turner told opens in a new windowGlamour UK in a 2019 interview. “Maisie is my strong home.”
What we admire most: These two never have a negative word to say about each other. They speak positively, showering each other with compliments and encouragement. Building confidence in each other is essential to a healthy friendship, as discussed in the Senior Experience.
Tina Fey and Amy Poehler
These Saturday Night Live alumnae have performed alongside each other in countless TV shows and movies, presented at numerous awards shows and even penned a few feature-length productions together. They show audiences that women don’t have to compete with each other to be successful. In Fey’s comedic autobiography, Bossypants, she writes about the experience of having Poehler on the SNL set with her: “I was so happy. Weirdly, I remember thinking, ‘My friend is here! My friend is here!’ Even though things had been going great for me at the show, with Amy there, I felt less alone.”
What we admire most: With such similar comedic talents, knacks for witty writing and quippy improv, it would be easy for these two to take a competitive stance toward each other. Instead, they recognize they are stronger together and refuse to stoop to pettiness.
The U.S. Women’s Gymnastics Team
On and off the mat, Gabby Douglas, Simone Biles, Aly Raisman, Laurie Hernandez and Madison Kocian form a sisterly bond. These gymnastics superstars are known for showing each other support on social media and celebrating each other after each medal won. According to NBC Sports, “Biles has likened Douglas to an older sister. When they were roommates, Biles said she asked Douglas for advice on choosing her college.”
What we admire most: These women are literally in competition with one another, but by the way they share positive words and consistently support each other, you’d never know it. Staying consistent is important to maintaining friendships, and not a single milestone passes without this group spreading the love.
To learn more about Kappa Delta’s values and female friendship, click opens in a new windowhere.